Isn’t it always time to say sorry?

One of those songs that I immediately think of and want to sing out loud when I hear the word “Sorry”. Sorry.

I have so many theories about why you need to not be apologetic about everything because it can undermine your self-confidence and perception of own self-worth.

I say sorry ALL THE DAMN TIME. It’s ridiculous and extremely tough to drop.

I realize how colonial it is (If you’re doubting this, think about why both Britain and Canada are very well known for doing this). And how ridiculous even that notion is, considering how long it’s been since then. Oh, and also the fact that I never even grew up in that time.

However, I somehow inherited the sensibilities, through the education system and societal norms that dictate politeness and respect to others in a given situation. Also, alot of it was from my parents’ idea of what it meant to be a decent human being. I do agree with it to a large extent, because people who are not aware at all of their impact on the world and on other people are too self-involved and in my opinion, not yet emotional evolved.

However, there really must be some kind of limit to this.

I’ve said sorry when someone got hurt.

Even when I wasn’t nearby…let alone responsible for it.

I’ve said thank you a gazillion times in one conversation and/or restaurant sitting.

It’s unnecessary and ridiculous to the nth degree.

I want to put a check on it. Not to transform into an asshole or anything, but to just come to terms with a mindset that I don’t have to feel responsible for everything. I don’t even know if that’s really the problem or not, but just that the consequences of it are not all positive on a person’s psyche.

What’s your take on this?

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Aleesha Suleman

Aleesha Suleman

Identity, personality and relationships: works-in-progress. Join me in the unearthing of myself through my writing. Karibuni!

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